Our only daughter is engaged! Her fiance asked us the day after Thanksgiving, 2009. Paul and I had an idea that he was going to ask us first for our blessing. So, on our annual "day after Thanksgiving breakfast walk" - Paul pondered, "What do I want to say to Adam when he asks us for our blessing?" I thought Paul was being his usual fun self and wanted to make a "smart" remark. I was wrong. Paul explained to me that this was much too serious for that kind of reply. His "baby girl" is going to have another man to take care of her. (Amazing how one can be married to a person for so long and misread them!!) Anyway, Paul decided that he wanted to let Adam know that he has our blessing, however, he needs to be sure that this is forever... a forever commitment/covenant. Therefore, if divorce happens, it is like death. Death to not only their relationship, but death to our relationship with Adam... our sons' and their wives' relationships with him.....
So - after Adam said, "I am so thankful that you have welcomed me into your family and that you love me like a son. I would like to make this relationship permanent by marrying your daughter."
Paul said, "Adam, we are so proud of you and of course you have our blessing... Just make sure that you are ready and willing to make this commitment for life. It takes hard work, but worth every single effort... more than worth it!"
.....then we all prayed together.......
