Hello Beloved Readers! It certainly has been a while since I have blogged. Alot has been going on in my life. I will tell you more in later blogs. Suffice it to say, God always brings me through. He has never failed me... ever....and He will never fail you either.
So on to the idea of a "wall" and breaking through it - or breaking it down.
I believe that every time I have a "discussion" with a loved one - like my husband, sons, daughters - folks that I really have a close relationship to and want to maintain, there is a "wall" to go through. Let me define "discussion" so we are all on the same page. To me, a "discussion" is that time when there is a miscommunication in a relationship. When the person I am talking to and I just cannot get to that place of resolve. So these "discussions" that I am talking about are not light, even intellectual discussions. These "discussions" and their end result, are the meat of what keeps or breaks a relationship.
Now let's define "wall." I believe that in those "discussions" - there is always a "wall." Did you see that word always? I mean ALWAYS! And, if we want these precious, important relationships to be protected and grow - we ALWAYS have to go through that "wall" to the place on the other side where we are in sync again. We have to go through that "wall" to the place where our relationship is at peace - no garbage left to rot and fester. If we do not go through that wall - the garbage will pile up and have to be dealt with eventually. The garbage left behind from unresolved "discussions" will not go away on it's own. In fact, it grows.
So - from years of breaking through "walls" - be sure you go through it with your loved one. Yesterday, Paul and I had a "discussion." We went on a mini-vacation (a night away - but still in town). My idea of a mini-vacation was to stay at the hotel until check-out. I just wanted to be together --- Well Paul's idea was, it is Saturday - we had a lovely evening - now time to do the chores, go to the food store, clean up the yard, etc. I was hurt, but didn't say anything. Then finally we talked - and he said - "I'm sorry." But - the "wall" was still there. The issue was not resolved. Finally, after the hard work of not accusing, discussing fairly, listening intently - resolve happened. He truly understood my concerns and I understood where he was coming from.
Go through the "wall." It is real - It is not imagined. You know when that "wall" is broken down - your relationship has grown stronger. It doesn't mean that another "wall" will be easier to go through. Don't be fooled. The "walls" will still be there - it is just your awareness of them is quicker and your determination and love will bring them down - ALWAYS!
Enjoy breaking down those "walls!" Share your stories if you like!
God bless and keep you - oh Beloved Ones!
