Watch out for those "foxes!"

How I love to share with my Beloved Readers!!!

And especially, my beloved children...Kurt and Stephanie, Jana and Adam, Scott, Mark.....I love you all so very much!

I want to share the truth that no matter how long you are married - you must always work on your marriages. The work is hard, but the rewards infinite!

Paul and I have been married more than 32 years (which is in itself amazing - a blessing from God for Jesus is our center). Therefore, I really thought that we were "insulated" against any separation. I, naively believed, that we had "made it." How wrong I was! The responsibilites of life - my dad passing away, Paul's mom moving in, stressful jobs, my going for my Letter of Eligibility, etc. - all, very subtly pulled us apart. The very interesting part of all this is that we did not even notice it!!!! Remember that word - "sublty." Your marriages never move apart obviously - it always a subtle. If it were obvious, you would be able to react quickly. It would be easy. LISTEN - it is NOT ever obvious.

Look at the definition from the Free Dictionary of "subtle" - "so slight as to be difficult to detect or describe."

Before you know it, your marriages could be in deep trouble.

So, what should you do? Be aware. Be alert. Don't ignore the signs and red flags that tell you that you are pulling apart. Figure out ways that you will pull back together. Put your relationship as a priority. Get away. Craft times that will increase time to talk, enjoy, and agree that you need work. Talk often - talk some more.....and always pray. Figure out what you can do especially crafted to build and protect your own relationship.

But beware - people will not understand. They will not understand this "work." They may even sabotage your efforts. Stay focused.....those little foxes can steal....

"Catch all those foxes, those little foxes, before they steal the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming." Song of Solomon 2:15 NLT

Catch those foxes before they steal your love! The rewards are infinite!

Love and blessings to all my Beloved Readers. Let me know your thoughts.....

You have a choice....

I remember clearly when Paul and I chose the type of marriage we wanted. We decided that we had three choices... we could have a great marriage, a bad marriage or a mediocre marriage. I hope that those who know us can tell that we chose the "great marriage." And, I hope that you all realize that this choice brought along with it a tremendous amount of work, forgiveness, communication, and time. But, it is the best work we have ever done. The rewards are astounding.

Listen carefully, we BOTH had to agree that this is what we wanted. If one person decides this is what they want, and never communicate it to their spouse... it just will not work. It is another one of those things that you have to discuss and agree to as a couple.

Have you ever noticed that anything on earth will always work to decay, unless it is attended to? We have wrought iron railings outside our home. If we do not sand and repaint them, they will rust.. decay. If wood is not treated, taken care of...it will decay. Our houses need attention or they will move to disrepair.. decay. Our teeth, if not taken care of will .... decay. The list of examples goes on and on and on.

Our marriages, if not tended to ..... will decay. So, my beloved ones, make the choice. What kind of marriage do you want to have? What kind of marriage do you want to be remembered for?
What kind of legacy do you want your marriage to leave?

You have a choice to make! Make it wisely and purposely.